“ Your problem is…. you expect everyone around you to think like you. Obviously they have opinions different from yours. It makes you upset and you start complaining about them”
– These were the judicious words of my wife few weeks ago. I was about to retaliate with my side of the story but instead kept mum like all peace loving husbands in this world do. You can’t risk your dinner, can you?:-)
I should have seen this long time coming. After all, it is she who had to put up with my constant complaining all these years. But I got tell you, It was one of those light bulb moments(as you see in cartoons, a sign of enlightenment). I knew for sure, it just touched a weakest, rusty part of my belief system .
My quest for answers began then onwards. After couple of days, I tumbled on a blog and the following was shining like a brightest star.
“We give so much energy and value to our expectations that we rarely let them go without a fight. And yet when we do, there's such a lightness of being and ease that we wonder how we ever managed to carry that burden around with us for so long.
In a way our list of expectations is an agenda that we impose upon the world and it acts as a filter for our attention. We see things not as they really are, but as either good, bad or indifferent, judged in relation to what we want.. and our attention goes to whatever we've deemed significant. It's this filtering process that allows us to create personal meaning, from a world that on the face of it seems random and meaningless. But because this filtered vision is the only way we now know of looking at life, we assume that what we are looking at is reality. ”
You can read the article here
There you go… Blink!!!!(Another bulb).I felt that haziness in mind had cleared just a bit but still I required some more evidence to really convince myself..
But would you believe this…, Today I got an email (from one of my positive quotes subscriptions ) which exactly said what I should do..
“My days of whining and complaining about others have come to an end. Nothing is easier than fault finding. All it will do is discolor my personality so that none will want to associate with me. That was my old life. No more.
- Og Mandino"
Hmm, I am not so perfect as Mr (or Ms) Og and I don’t expect to stop complaining straight away as it seems so innate but atleast I know now my cure. I will attempt to change.. That is all I can promise.. This IS one hell of a decision !!! Phew!!!
Then it occurred to me, Isn’t it the same as ‘ The universe conspires to teach you something’ theory or as one wise man put it( I forgot his name) ‘ Teacher will appear when the student ready!’?
In any case, I know what should be done!! That is the end of the story. But, Will I accomplish ??? that is a different issue altogether…perseverance…law of diminishing intent ….etc...etc…
Hey pals! moral of the story here is ‘ listen to your wife!’. I know... Believe me , I know , that is too much to pay for the so called “personal improvement”.
But , like they say , Choice is yours! ….
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