Are u a self improvement junkie? This one is for you.
Wondering why you always give up on self help routines after few days?
you are not alone. I myself have these questions too.
One good thing though is I never stopped trying new routines.
So I decided to figure out myself. I observed myself on the next few occasions and got it!
So here is how it goes !
I normally start with a self improvement routine when I am not satisfied with something. For example, a weight loss routine when I thought I look fat in photographs .
My resolve to follow the routine quickly fades away almost all the time. I did try to nail the cause. But only managed to find a nice concept to put the blame on -That poor thing is called 'The law of diminishing intends '.
But deep inside I know I am fooling myself.
These questions keep coming.
why they did not work ? why do I chicken-out every time?
I went back to books, blogs , tube videos and every place I usually go to pickup ideas. As usual, came out more confused...
So sat back and did another round of introspection...
Aaha , few routines did stick. like Badminton , Surya Namaskar and meditation... okey! I looked at the reasons for sticking to them.
Is it the fun factor? or
Is it the sweat that gives the sense of competing well? or
Better body shape ? or
The joy of becoming calmer?
In fact all of them. So a pattern was emerging. Here is what I found out .
I stick to improvement routines only If I gain something and feedback loops that give near term positive results.
Now.. Round 2 of books, blogs and youtube videos. Finally zeroed in the right word 'Gain Motivation'.
Let me explain,
I gave up those improvement routines that I took up to avoid pain. I gave up as soon as i felt little better.
yes!That is right.. on some occasions just a little improvement all that I needed!
On the contrary, if I am motivated by gain, the positive feedback loops kept me in the game longer.
Ureka!!!!
It may seem so trivial for you. But this little insight will save you many fruitful years.
More on this later..
Wondering why you always give up on self help routines after few days?
you are not alone. I myself have these questions too.
One good thing though is I never stopped trying new routines.
So I decided to figure out myself. I observed myself on the next few occasions and got it!
So here is how it goes !
I normally start with a self improvement routine when I am not satisfied with something. For example, a weight loss routine when I thought I look fat in photographs .
My resolve to follow the routine quickly fades away almost all the time. I did try to nail the cause. But only managed to find a nice concept to put the blame on -That poor thing is called 'The law of diminishing intends '.
But deep inside I know I am fooling myself.
These questions keep coming.
why they did not work ? why do I chicken-out every time?
I went back to books, blogs , tube videos and every place I usually go to pickup ideas. As usual, came out more confused...
So sat back and did another round of introspection...
Aaha , few routines did stick. like Badminton , Surya Namaskar and meditation... okey! I looked at the reasons for sticking to them.
Is it the fun factor? or
Is it the sweat that gives the sense of competing well? or
Better body shape ? or
The joy of becoming calmer?
In fact all of them. So a pattern was emerging. Here is what I found out .
I stick to improvement routines only If I gain something and feedback loops that give near term positive results.
Now.. Round 2 of books, blogs and youtube videos. Finally zeroed in the right word 'Gain Motivation'.
Let me explain,
I gave up those improvement routines that I took up to avoid pain. I gave up as soon as i felt little better.
yes!That is right.. on some occasions just a little improvement all that I needed!
On the contrary, if I am motivated by gain, the positive feedback loops kept me in the game longer.
Ureka!!!!
It may seem so trivial for you. But this little insight will save you many fruitful years.